Children raising children (a dream on parenting)


From time to time I have dreams. They differ from regular dream because they are vivid and boarder upon something that could almost be considered real. Well I just had one of these and this is what it was about.
I was walking upon a sidewalk when two boys throw stuff at me. I stopped and warned them they should not do this because it was not the right thing to do. Two more times something flew by my head. So I decided to talk to their parents. They were well off financially, but in attitude they were poor. You could see that they did love their children, but they had no concept of how to instill values upon them. Also present was a grandmother, who also had no idea.
The father, even though an adult acted like a teenage, having no real concepts of right or wrong himself and was more interested in pleasing himself and being waited upon by all about him. Clearly selfish and self-serving and refused to listen to the advice I attempted to give him.
The mother was a pillar, but her base was crumbling from the strain of trying to parent three male children, while her mother offered no help what so ever, apparently leaching off of her daughter. Yet the mother of the boys was herself lacking of the needed knowledge of the necessary values to raise a child correctly.
Where were these values instilled into the people of the United States? In Church. In School. Can you learn these values there now? No you cannot, why?
First off, many do not go to church anymore. They would rather shop at the store or go and exercise at the gym. As for schools, the one element that allowed them to learn of values has been removed from schools. That would be God and those values that were placed upon the cork-boards on the walls throughout this nation. Like for instance the golden rule: “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.”
The thing is will this help people to mature? That is hard to answer. All I know is that by the end of the conversation in my dream I was warning the mother to prepare for a divorce and to understand that it would be rough since I saw that the father would do all in his power to keep all that he considered important to him near him, which would result in things become worse for their two boys since they were not what was important to him. How can something that love only itself care for anything thing else? It can’t.
As a result I could see these children in jail or worse. I could see a shattered home with a mother struggling to keep her head above the drowning waters of responsibility. Waters she should have been sharing with the father, but he refused to do so. All the while the grandmother just looked on not offering any advice or support. Leaving the mother to truly attempt to grow into adulthood in a way no one should have to do so.
Seek out a good church. One that offers God, not a social club. One that teaches the Bible, not which flavor of coffee is hot (forgive the pun) this month. Seek out one that offers support and helps teach core commandants of Matthew 22:37-39, which states to love God first and to love your neighbor as you love yourself.

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