parenting

Children raising children (a dream on parenting)

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From time to time I have dreams. They differ from regular dream because they are vivid and boarder upon something that could almost be considered real. Well I just had one of these and this is what it was about.
I was walking upon a sidewalk when two boys throw stuff at me. I stopped and warned them they should not do this because it was not the right thing to do. Two more times something flew by my head. So I decided to talk to their parents. They were well off financially, but in attitude they were poor. You could see that they did love their children, but they had no concept of how to instill values upon them. Also present was a grandmother, who also had no idea.
The father, even though an adult acted like a teenage, having no real concepts of right or wrong himself and was more interested in pleasing himself and being waited upon by all about him. Clearly selfish and self-serving and refused to listen to the advice I attempted to give him.
The mother was a pillar, but her base was crumbling from the strain of trying to parent three male children, while her mother offered no help what so ever, apparently leaching off of her daughter. Yet the mother of the boys was herself lacking of the needed knowledge of the necessary values to raise a child correctly.
Where were these values instilled into the people of the United States? In Church. In School. Can you learn these values there now? No you cannot, why?
First off, many do not go to church anymore. They would rather shop at the store or go and exercise at the gym. As for schools, the one element that allowed them to learn of values has been removed from schools. That would be God and those values that were placed upon the cork-boards on the walls throughout this nation. Like for instance the golden rule: “Do unto other as you would have done unto you.”
The thing is will this help people to mature? That is hard to answer. All I know is that by the end of the conversation in my dream I was warning the mother to prepare for a divorce and to understand that it would be rough since I saw that the father would do all in his power to keep all that he considered important to him near him, which would result in things become worse for their two boys since they were not what was important to him. How can something that love only itself care for anything thing else? It can’t.
As a result I could see these children in jail or worse. I could see a shattered home with a mother struggling to keep her head above the drowning waters of responsibility. Waters she should have been sharing with the father, but he refused to do so. All the while the grandmother just looked on not offering any advice or support. Leaving the mother to truly attempt to grow into adulthood in a way no one should have to do so.
Seek out a good church. One that offers God, not a social club. One that teaches the Bible, not which flavor of coffee is hot (forgive the pun) this month. Seek out one that offers support and helps teach core commandants of Matthew 22:37-39, which states to love God first and to love your neighbor as you love yourself.

Pride in workmanship………..

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That title to me is a misnomer. Why? Because that is something that is no longer present for the most part in the United States. Pride in workmanship is not something that just happens. It is something that is instilled into a person.
Pride, which is the key to the statement. Actual pride in what you do. The ability to do something that no one else can do. The ability to do something better then someone else; to make something that will endure; to me those are the hallmarks of pride.
Where someone gets the desire to seek this type of pride does not just appear when you are an adult though. That is why I stated it is something that is instilled into a person.
It is something that happens as someone grows into adulthood. It happens not only in the home, but also at school and even church (synagogue, mosque, temple, etc. etc.)
When I was in high school, I helped put together my schools literary magazine that we published once a year. I am a technical artist to a degree. I made a pen and ink drawing and used many techniques that are used in drafting. The picture was good enough to be voted to be the centerfold for the magazine. That instilled a lot of pride into me. That is just one example of how taking pride in the things I do was instilled into me.
It is event and other things that equal to this that happen in those impressionable years that help to make people take pride in what they do.
I mentioned in church one time that I knew how to make a house to a degree. The person I talked to asked when did work for a construction company. I told them I did not. I learned it on Junior High School. He was younger than I was, so I asked him did they not teach you stuff like that in school. His reply was no.
It is hearing statements like that, and hearing on the news on how they are no longer teaching our youth to succeed in the world. I then understand why products made in the United States fall apart. I stopped buying American autos in the early eighties because they literally fell apart in just over a year of purchasing them. The same can be said for electronic products made in the states as well. I went from praising General Motor and RCA to being a loyal buyer of Nissan and Samsung.
One of the best educational systems in the world is in Japan by the way. One of the worst is the United States, and it is getting worse since the implantation of Common Core. They are no longer teaching our child how to survive in the adult world, instead they really are not teaching them anything at all. Yet they are spending more money even with inflation’s adjustments. So for more money to teach our children we get less from it to the point of them going into the adult world unprepared or even filled with any type of pride within themselves?
In all actuality, it is schools that are destroying our children and not instilling pride any longer, but parents are at fault as well, but schools are worse.
In the past, one of the major strengths that marked this nation as great was the desire to educate all. Now we are witnessing the effects of not having this demand. One of the main issues is the teachers we have as this time. Not all of them as a point of fact, but still more then there should be. This is due, in a major part, to unions. Not only for teachers, but also for many major industries in this nation.
Within them, the need for pride has been pushed out the door, literally. So an attitude of none caring has saturated into those that have taught for many years within the system. When new teachers enter into the system, they still have pride and wish to pass this self-respect to their students. Unfortunately, due to how the system is setup these teachers in many cases find themselves pushed out the door and are no longer teachers. Why? Because they did not have enough seniority and those that need to be forced out are left within the schools to pass on their complacency instead of the pride the younger teachers wish to have past on to their pupils.
When an organization supports the destruction of a society it is something that should not be allowed to continue. If reforming these organizations is the fix then it needs to be done. If totally removing them needs to be done then it should be.
When a system supports the destruction of pride from our children it should be reformed into something that will restore bringing pride back into the minds and hearts of our children.
Without pride which gives someone self-worth, self-confidence, self-assurance and the desire in anything they do to be the best they can make of it. Then this nation will continue to diminish and become another Rome Empire. Another nation destroyed due to a corrupt system of government and education.