This is what I told my wife. Why? I told her this because I don’t want her to wear black to my funeral if I should be called to heaven before her. Now again why?
Sure there will be a bit of sorrow but only due to the separation from her, but that is not what we are told and promised. This is one of the things that I see as a misunderstanding that has never truly been addressed within the church. I have yet to see a truly happy and joyous funeral. This is not what I want if I do go before her.
This life is only temporary. This life is not our true goal. This life is not all there is. This is but a proving ground. A trial to see if we are truly worthy to honor and serve the creator of all there is, including us.
To be called to His presence is a time that should be celebrated not mourned over. Now if you do not know for sure where they are going once this life ends then yes by all means mourn and be sorrowful. For you do not know if you will ever see them again, but if you do know that Jesus is your Savior and those that love you are the same then celebrate and rejoice. For it is only a short parting that will go by quickly for the one that has been called before our Lord.
Think of how joyful they are to be standing within the light of God, to be talking to our Savior the Lord Jesus the Christ. Is that not something to want to throw a party about?