selfishness

“Curse of the Close-minded & Short-sighted”


I did not write what is to follow, but I had to share it. It is worth the read:

Another vent note….

This week I have dealt with three very difficult people, each in a unique situation, but all three the same, closed-minded and short-sighted, i.e., dangerous…. When you see someone you care about walking down a path that could harm them or others the natural reaction is to try to stop them, but what if you can’t? Often times this is the case because these people do not wish to see the facts or fail to see logic, and unfortunately they are the majority. It’s easy to fall into the trap of seeing the world only from your perspective of what’s right or wrong, it feels safe, secure, and it makes the world seem less complicated, but it’s a lie. A lie that can harm the innocent, it can destroy lives, and it can create conflict. It is the ultimate form of selfishness because you are placing yourself above others.

“If someone is able to show me that what I think or do is not right, I will happily change, for I seek the truth, by which no one was ever truly harmed. It is the person who continues in his self-deception and ignorance who is harmed.”
― Marcus Aurelius

This is my rant about this obscenely large group of people. I know I can’t do anything to change it, but it is really hard for me to watch it, and if I could I would separate myself and my family from all of it, but it’s everywhere. It’s a helpless feeling…having no real control over your life, and none of us do. We are all victims to the actions or inactions of others in some form…none of us are in control and if you think that you are the exception then you are part of the problem, none of us have control. What makes it terrifying is not only are we victims to the decisions of others, those decisions are often not very thought out….

“The most fatal illusion is the settled point of view. Since life is growth and motion, a fixed point of view kills anybody who has one.”
― Brooks Atkinson

There is no arguing with people like this, which makes it even more tragic. You could have certifiable proof and it would not matter to them. They value their opinion over fact, or logic, and that is not rational behavior. They love to deal in absolutes such as “always,” or “never,” when neither of these concepts exist in reality. They see the world as black or white, but these purities do not exist in the human world, everything is simply different shades of gray. Instead of planning ahead, they live in the moment; a view romanticized in this day in age, but it’s dangerous.

“Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.”
― Benjamin Franklin

A simple example of this most of us can relate to, an intersection. Ever seen a dangerous 4-way or 2-way stop, and wonder, “why don’t they put a traffic light here, someone is going to get killed?” But, nothing ever happens. It remains the same for years and years, ample time to do something about it, but nothing. Until one day you hear about a person or family getting killed at that intersection then about a month later, as if by magic, traffic light has appeared…. Still the damage has been done—a life or lives have been lost, all due to lack of foresight. If foresight would have been used they would still be alive.

“If you have the power to prevent a tragedy but do nothing, you are equally held to the same guilt as the one who committed the act.”
— Michael Halding

Is it possible to predict every outcome, no it’s not, but it is important that we prepare for real logical possibilities and we leave our minds open for those possibilities. We must keep our minds open because someone else might be able to see something we can’t, something if action is taken could save a life. However, due to pride most people do not do this and to those people I ask, is your pride worth someone’s life? Must someone pay with their life for you to see reality? To me, it doesn’t make sense, it’s a waste, it’s selfish, arrogant, and immoral.

If you are one of these people…you are the problem, and you are the source of pain in this world.

/endvent

Growing faith


A recurring theme throughout my life has been the desire to respect others. Sure, some parts of my personality can be a thorn to some, but who amongst us can say that is not true for any person. In my early teens, I allowed my peers to turn my heart to hardness. This lasted until I was in my mid-twenties. One thing that I know marked these years was the mere fact that I had become selfish and self-serving.
When I became born again at twenty-six the man, what I should have been came back into existence. A man that God knew and recognized. (See my post “Overwhelming sin” to understand what I meant by this statement). The man returned to what the boy I had been before I allowed my peers to turn me into what I had become in the dark years.
I learned to give into my desires and wants in those years. I allowed myself to listen to only myself. Not caring if I hurt people. Many of these people were girls and women, especially when I turned eighteen.
Regret is one thing that has crossed my mind more than once over the last quarter of a century plus. Sometimes this regret causes me to do things that help others. Then there are times this regret has made me avoid situations out of fear they may be a repeat of something from my past that I do not wish to go through again. I feel these regrets are due to me trying to think of others before myself.
Too many times in the Bible we are told be humble, placing others before ourselves. The emphasis is too poignant that true faith requires humility, thus selflessness. When you are selfish, you are not acting for God. When thinking of your own desires no matter how little or big you have placed yourself before others.
I really think it is in all of us to be humble. I know I was humble when I was a child and had forgotten it due to pain and humiliation. How I returned to it is where free-will comes into play. I felt wrong from my behavior. I felt more guilt as I became more selfish. I do not know if others experience this and hide it, but it allowed me to face myself and realize this is not what God wanted for me or us for that matter. So I chose through the act of free-will to return to what I was taught in my youth.
I know I am not perfect. No human can ever be perfect. I know I have overcome sins that would have turned me into someone other then what I am. I know not only that it was God, but an inner strength that has allowed me to grow into the man I am today. Where did I get this inner strength? From my trials I have face throughout my life. Without these trials, I feel I would in no way be the man I am today.
All I do know is that the man that types these words today is in fact someone who deserves to be call a man, since there is a difference between being male and being a man. It is by God and for God that I am here, and I praise Him for that.