Recently I was described as having “White Knight Syndrome.” So I got curious and looked to see if there really was such a thing and guess what, there is. The way it was described in short was a man that seeks out several women at once that wants to rescue them from their problems and feels that women are weak and require a strong man to come to their aid amongst other non-appealing traits.
I read this and just said “You have to be kidding.”
I really do not fit into this model not even in the slightest. Being a Christian I have learned through study and pray as well as trial and error, that if you wish to be the head of the household you are in fact becoming the leader of it. It says plainly in the Bible that if you lead you must become a servant. So as a Christian male and head of a household I am to place all within this household before myself and so be a servant unto them.
Now that does not mean you become a butler and wait upon everyone in the house, catering to their every need like I have read some women actually want, which also describes my fist wife. Being a Christian man, I know that I am to strive to make those within my home happy. I do this through working a job and providing an income. I do this by providing a roof over our heads. I do this by see that all are fed, clothed and given a good education if they are my children.
This must all be done before I consider doing anything for myself. Does this mean I have to rescue the woman I call my wife? No. Admittedly, my two marriages have not worked out, one due to my first wife wanting a butler, which she now has. The second is a bit more difficult to explain, but there was really no “White Knight Syndrome” involved. By the way, this is where the part of “trial and error” came into play as I mentioned earlier.
What I do know is that being a Christian man is that you care, especially for those that you love and cherish. Sure, you would like to “rescue” them from time to time, but that cannot happen all the time. They need to fall then pick themselves up, and be allowed to turn to God and seek Him out.
When I wrote this I was divorced for the 2nd time. I have since remarried. I found it interesting and prove that God is real in this third instance.
I knew I couldn’t be unmarried for I knew I would live in sin. However, I had grown unhappy with how things were going with looking for someone new. I turned it over to God. That same week, my now wife turned over her frustration on the same issue to God. We then after being on “Christian Mingle” for two year found each other there for the first time.
My wife is my soulmate and the person God sent to rescue me, not the other way around. I have never been happier in my life. All praise and glory to the Lord Almighty through His Son the Lord Jesus Christ.
Today officially a new year begins for me. It already shows promise and at the same time already shows trails. Now I get to see if the mundane will be the same. The mundane is one of the greatest trials that effects most. It is this that I think causes a lot of trouble for all. They cannot accept it due to promises made by parents and others in authority.
A prime example is the “white knight” that ladies look for throughout their lives. There are many other examples: sports, fame and winning the lottery. All focus on one thing. Rewards here upon the earth. All also promise to remove the mundane.
Here is the kicker: They just create a different type of mundane. A “white knight” is not the answer. Being great at sports is not the answer. Fame is not the answer. Money is not the answer.
How can I get folks to understand that this life we now live is a mere blink in the eye to the life we are ALL promised we will live, but how we live in this blink will determine how good or bad the next billion years will be. Each little action we make in the next hour is as important as a lifetime of behavior towards those about us. An action that will affect us for an eternity. A core element is ones believe in God. It is better to believe there is a God then not. Why? Because time and again those that deny God fall into depravity while that that say there is a God avoid certain acts of behavior that helps make society thrive and grow.
Now accepting there is God and asking God into your life as different as believing or not believing in God in the first place. I would like you to accept God into your life. I see the importance. I know that seeking reward upon this earth is futile because I know there is wonders that will be beyond this temporal existence that are more than worth waiting for and that is a true reward.
AT THIS POINT I COULD NOT THINK OF MORE TO SAY AND PROCEEDED TO GO TO WORK. WHAT IS TO FOLLOW IS WHAT HAPPENED AFTER I GOT TO WORK.
And what is the first thing I am greeted with as I walk into to work.
“So and So passed away!”
This man sought after the here the now. The rewards of this earth. He cussed and told dirty jokes and thought himself loved by those about him. Yet people did not. They degraded and talk badly about him. Knew that if they wished short cuts to be done he was the “go to” person.
Now he is gone. From all outward signs he was not right with God. He did not have a personal relationship with God, nor did I think he even believed in God. I treated him as I try and treat all about me as my equal. I was nice, but I never got the opportunity to talk to him of God. Was this my failing, or God’s timing? He lived his live in sin of this I have no doubt. I have witnessed firsthand him showing hundred dollar bills held like a hand of cards up to a camera on a computer screen to show some woman on the other side of the world that cared nothing for him but cared only for the money on display before her.
Did he leave any true evidence of his existence? What is there that can truly last? Another person’s soul. I don’t mean children, I mean a soul. We have them you know. All of us. It is that part of us that will go on and live for forever. It is that part of us that will remove the corrupt and put on the uncorrupted. This is what is important in seeking out and asking God into your life. We are to bear the fruit of salvation for as many as will listen. So that once the time comes that we do receive the uncorrupted we will also be ready to receive the reward that is promised us. Not in this temporal life but in the eternal life that will be filled with rewards and wonders beyond compare.
Are you ready for the eternal life?