Confessions of a screwed up middle aged man: the grudge

There is a young lady I work with that has been indoctrinated heavily into the liberal mentality. One of the strongest is one is that everything must be done their way or they will hate you and hold a grudge against you. There is other points that show how she thinks and believes, but that is not necessary for me to share with you, just know that I have no doubt about how she believes and thinks.
Now I have to admit since I am human there have been a couple of things that we have butted heads about. The last being me playing Christmas music from Thanksgiving till Christmas Eve. Now I admit I did not behave well on that issue and did apologies. Was just not in the mood to have to challenge my believe in God over secular Christmas music. Trust me there is a bit of difference between Christian Christmas music and secular. As it is it was clear she does not believe in Christmas or the REAL reason it is celebrated.
It is obvious that she hates me. Now I really have not done anything against her, but due to her brainwashing I am evil incarnate. Which is truly sad that she thinks this way.
Now like I said we have butted heads, but unlike her I greet her with a smile and a hello and goodnight. I do this to all, for it is the correct thing to do, especially when you say you are a Christian. She turns her head, refuses to talk and has hate written all over her face, but I will not let this deter me from doing what is right. I will continue to be nice to her, and it will be as Jesus has told us to act. Treat your neighbor as you would want to be treated, a better phrasing is the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
This is the teaching of Christ and so I feel obligated due to His salvation of me to do this and so I shall.

It’s the simple things that count: common courtesy

One thing that is lacking more and more in society is the acts of common courtesy. Why? Mainly because God has been removed from most people’s lives.
Why do I say this?
One simple word: Humility.
The true meaning of being humble is to place all others before yourself.
When you do that you do simple things like walking on the right side of the sidewalk in the US, most likely the left side in England (not sure on that never been there).
You also use the right side of the door when there is double doors.
Also, do not stand in front of doors.
When driving you yield the right of way. By the way, those with the “right of way” are those going straight. So if you want to turn onto the road. You wait for there to be no traffic. If you are turning, again you wait if there is someone going straight heading toward you.
Simple things like this show you are caring for the other person.
Will this guarantee you happiness? Doubtfully, mainly because most about you are self-absorbed and care only for themselves. That is their issue to handle if they do not change.
Those that wish to live a humble life truly do not seek out notoriety, but that does not mean not to do what is right.
In the Bible, it clearly states that those that are to lead must be a servant to all. To a large degree that means you must be humble.
We are also taught to live a modest life. This means not to go out and seek a fortune, it means to live a life that does not require much. You do not need to live in a million dollar home. Many may choose to just live in an apartment or a small house not worth a lot. This is again being humble.
When you do lead, you must be an example to all. If they see you lie, they will lie. If they see you living in expensive homes, they will seek this.
This causes the economy to become un-balanced and causes strife and misery. However, it can be avoided simply by being humble.
Jesus called being humble a blessing. He also taught that those that are rich are people that need to be pitied and felt sorrow for. For they have their reward, and when you really think on it. Who would want a reward from this world? I know I sure do not.
So start to look at the simple things in life. Simple actions of respect and concern for your fellow human being. For that is what Jesus wants us all to seek in this life. For in the next life we are promised much more.

It is like the movie “Brewster’s Millions” he must spend $30 million in thirty days. He learns to detest money; as a result, he is given $300 million. Well to those that follow Christ your “$300 million” awaits us all in the next and eternal life

A dying breed

In today’s society, being what is called a “gentleman” is a dying breed. It is sad really. To me being courteous is how all should be, be you male or female. The main reason once upon a time men were considered “gentlemen” was because they respected women. Now they tell us to respect them but to treat them as equals. Me? I have always though women to be my equals but still to open doors and pull out chairs for them. This to me shows you care and place others before yourself.
It is a foundation that should be laid in all. It teaches them that other people are more important than they are. Once again, the adage “do unto others as you would have done unto you” comes into play. Something some would attribute to Confucius, but was actually first documented in the book of Exodus in the Bible hundreds of years before his time.
Do unto others as you would have done unto you is the basis of being a gentle-person. To not stand in the middle of a doorway talking, but moving aside to allow others to go in and out is a sign you respect others over yourself. As long as you do not show others respect; how can you be expected to be respected yourself? You cannot.
This is something that is within the foundation of true Christianity as well. If you claim to be a Christian and do not respect others and place others before yourself then you need to start praying and start reading the Bible and then thinking about where you stand in your faith. For as I have said in an other post, that to me selfishness is the ultimate sin, from selfishness all other sins come from. Why? Because you are only thinking of satisfying your own wants and desires, which is opposite of being a gentle-person.
What is it a dying breed should not be when people profess to being Christian since being Christian and a gentle-person walk hand in hand together. It is something that has been pulled out from under us by those that seek to “improve” things for all, but in actuality, we are not moving forward but backward. We are more like the middle ages then we are a modern society all because being kind to others is frowned upon and no longer taught in schools or our churches. It is not PC(politically correct) to do so and at the drop of a hat we risk being sued but those that wish to impose their “progressive” thinking upon all. It should actually be called “Anti-progressive.”
So what can you do to stop the extinction of this dying breed called a gentleman?

To the gentle people

How does someone try to show who he or she really are? It can take years to truly know someone. It can take longer if they hide their true self from you. Be it intentionally or out of fear. Those that do it out of fear, do it out of shame, usually, for some action that happened to them before they met the party that wishes to know who they are.
Then there are those tout there that truly desire to share, not only their past, be it good or bad, but their future as well. They look at the world with a child’s excitement, yet they remember getting their fingers burned figuratively speaking. This burning is impressed upon them, which makes them shy, stand offish, or slow to act when someone seeks to get to learn more about them. Kind caring people like that have the hardest time in the world.
Repeatedly they run into someone that tries to tear them down. Yet time and again they spring back for the most part. Sometimes they become jaded. Sometimes they start to become like those that attempt to tear them down.
It is times like this that they need to seek something more then themselves. Many seek out an escape through a diversion, or a substance. Many retreat into themselves. There is another option though; one that has been there longer then any of us.
It is something that will accept all as they are at this moment. Yet it will allow those that seek to return to the kind and gentle-person they started as.
In time when that person is ready within themselves it will ask them to change into someone who will stop thinking of themselves, and begin to reach out to others. Giving them a kindness that is within them which will cause others to wonder why this person before them is so gentle and compassionate.
Some of these may be the ones that caused the person to become jaded and they will look on in astonishment and start to think how this is possible.
They may ask the person that is kind and caring and this person will respond:
“It is God through His Son Jesus that I am as you see now.”