To the ladies on dating sites (especially Christian Mingle)

Re-post and update

I was just watching the news and they had a segment about how more and more women are finding themselves staying single. The problem stated in the segment? Women are looking for what equates to a fantasy man that does not exist.
I admittedly am on a couple… well a few sites myself, and I would have to agree with this news segments findings. I am in my fifties and am once again looking. So when I look I see someone that interested me. I check them out and look for compatibility. Then I stop dead in my tracks. Most are looking for athletic, muscular, tone men. In their fifties?
I did my research, since I admit I am overweight. Over fifty percent of all males over fifty are overweight. Then you add in smokers, men that are not desirable attitude wise and if you are lucky maybe just maybe two percent of males fit what women are looking for that could maybe fit the fantasy women have made for themselves and so they end up single.
In the segment, the women stated that they are looking for a kind man. From my own observations most kind men fall into the fifty plus percentage that are overweight, and are over fifty percent of that original fifty percent plus. So ladies it is time for a wake-up call.
Do you want the fantasy or do you want happiness? It is time to rethink what you really want in your life. It is time to decide if you want to remain single or if you want to share your life with someone that wishes to share your life with you.
Now to those that partake of Christian Mingle, where again I see women looking for the fantasy male. These ladies disappoint me the most. As I have discussed in other posts of mine is that this life we now live is temporary, basically we are trying life on for size and seeing if we do well with it, then we will move on into an eternal body when Christ returns to earth. This eternal body I will theorize will be at our physical best. In others words the very fantasy man you ladies are looking for. So think on this. If you go looking for that kind, caring, man that will treat you as an equal. Not someone that looks down on you, or abuses you. A man that seeks to have a partner throughout all eternity is someone you should be seeking out, but as I stated above most the men that fit this description are overweight. To me this is a test for you ladies to go through. Can you look past the physical and look to the spiritual? That is what those that go to Christian Mingle should be searching for. I know I do.
So sue me, I am being a bit selfish here, because I would like the chance to share my life with someone special as well. A life that to me will not last for thirty or even forty more years, but billions. It will only work out that way if a few ladies do wake up and start to look for inner quality over outer quality.
Good luck ladies and I wish you the best in your efforts.


I noticed someone looked at this post. I  re-read it. As of this March 2021 I will be celebrating my 6th anniversary with a woman I desire to spend all eternity with.

My recommendation was correct.  Seek a Godly man eventhough they are harder to find than the fantasy man…

Again good luck and know that Jesus is soon to return

The mask that we teach women to wear.

Due to many not truly knowing, teaching or understanding the Bible, women are being taught to wear a mask.
Now what is this mask you ask? Makeup.
They make their hair all fancy in none natural ways. They cover their face in makeup so thick that their true beauty is gone and what is left is a variation of clown face paint.
It is another one of those things where they must make themselves appealing to the world, to the temporal, to the fleeting. A woman’s true beauty will be seen the day they are given their eternal and perfect body. Yet they strive for this perfection in the corruptible. Some that will wrinkle and fade with age as all that is imperfect will do.
In actuality a person’s real beauty does not come from the outside, but from within. If a woman is beautiful within themselves it will shine for all the world to see. There is no need for greasepaint upon their faces. For the use of greasepaint is only good for those that wish to entertain for a brief moment, not to endure for billions upon billions of year.
Seek out the true meaning of the Bible and understand that whatever rewards you seek upon this temporal plain of existence will rot and decay away into dust including the external beauty. Seek out Jesus Christ so that you may see your true beauty that will radiate for all eternity. For we are all promised an eternal body, but few will ever see their true loveliness. The rest will be covered in worm infested burning skin and their beauty will never be seen for they never truly had any in the first place.

Confessions of a screwed up middle aged man: Why I prefer voluptuous woman

To me skinny or athletic females are a turn off. I do not want to see the woman’s skeleton or muscles. Now I must confess my first wife was skinny and boney before she gave birth, but I adored her post birth body. Other issues caused our marriage to end.
So having experienced both body types, I feel I can attest honestly on the subject. A woman with an hourglass figure and with smooth curves is much more appealing to the eye and attractive.
I watch those ads on TV where they talk about losing weight and they show before and after pictures. Nine times out of ten, I think to myself the woman looks better before she lost the weight. I am not a fan of things like that, but honestly, there are times when folks are too overweight. That is why the word “average” sounds more like the word “sexy” to me.